Newbies' Guide
Quick Reference Guide to the Site
Resource sites can sometimes feel very overwhelming when you first enter them unless you are looking for a specific type of article.
We have created this shortcut index to help those who are new to the lifestyle find the most relevant pages first. After that, feel free to browse around the site and enjoy the diversity of serious matter, humour, discussions, DIY, art, poetry and picture galleries.
What is BDSM?
A concise definition of the term BDSM and its origin
For more in-depth reading visit reference.com and Wikipedia/BDSM
Finding A Partner
Advice on how to go about finding the right partner for your needs.
A Dip In The Reality Pool
Keeping it real
Dominants, are you prepared?
An article on risk awareness and responsibilities
Safe Meetings
These pages may seem overly cautious when you first read them but they are extensive in this way to provide you with as much information as possible. You can then tailor that information to suit your circumstances and temper it with your own common sense.
Don't be taken in by people who tell you that BDSM meets are no more dangerous than vanilla ones. You are more likely to be tempted or seduced into being tied up and vulnerable on a BDSM "date" than you are on a 'nilla date.
Activities List
This is a very comprehensive list of activities to be used when negotiating and defining the boundaries of your new relationship.
Online Relationships
Some do's and don'ts surrounding relationships formed and/or maintained on the internet
Fem Subs Guide to Male Dominants
This outlines the different types of male dominants found in internet chatrooms and may help in seperating the wheat from the chaff. It also contains a paragraph or two about the female types found online.
Munches
A piece written to help you understand what a munch is and help to allay any fears you may have about attending such functions.
Chatroom Guide
Written to help you get along with the regulars when you enter a chatroom for the first time.
Book List
Reviews of several BDSM related publications and where to obtain them
Links
A page of links to resources, clubs, munches and special interests
Thoughts of BDSM
This is a section of personal essays by people from many different aspects of BDSM.
How To …
A section that explains how to undertake various BDSM activities